"I spoke with a man who has been in family ministry for several decades. I couldn’t resist in the course of our conversation asking for a bit of counsel. In answer to a parenting question, he said this, “Cary, everywhere I go, I ask parents what is their number one goal for their children. They usually answer, ‘I just want them to be happy.’” He proceeded to say, “That’s the stupidest answer anyone could ever give. Happiness is no parenting goal. A child can giggle his way straight to Hell. Now joy, on the other hand, is a much higher goal, because true joy comes from knowing Christ and doing His will.” Most parents’ greatest fear is their own children’s unhappiness. We cannot bear to see them disappointed, let down, or unhappy. We cannot deal with their sorrow. And all too often, we allow our fear of their unhappiness to keep us from truly helping them discover lifelong joy. Friend, when it comes to rules, rebellion, and relationships—make joy your goal and don’t fear a necessary moment of unhappiness that will lead to lifelong joy. The last time I checked, the dentist office wasn’t a very happy experience—but having healthy teeth surely is a blessing!"
Schmidt, Cary (2008-12-02). Hook, Line, & Sinker: How the Enemy is Dividing and Destroying the Christian Family (Second Edition) (p. 127). Striving Together Publications. Kindle Edition.